Unsure

So I recently found out that my uncle is going through a divorce. I don't know the details, whether they've already filed or are at the point of consideration, but it started to make me think about relationships.


I can say with confidence that relationships are tough at times. They require a lot of effort for them to continue smoothly. Despite the heartache and disagreements that relationships have, people still want them, and some to the point where they spend their whole lives looking for the one lover to make a relationship with.


So what makes a relationship worth it?


I don't really know the answer to that. If I did, I think I'd be in a much different place in my emotional and romantic life. I guess the only way I can really answer this question is by relating with my own relationship experience, which isn't that extensive. Though I might not have a lot of relationship wisdom, I do think I have a general sense as to what I want from a relationship. Of course, given I'm only 20, there are lots of things that I'm not considering in a long term and serious relationship yet (ie: marriage and other things related to it).


I've had some tough times in my most recent relationship. Now that I think back on it, most of those things have been worse on my part than my partners (I am biased, of course). But really, all of the things that came up as difficulties were things that he mentioned to me, and I ended up in a rut for a short period of time before things got sorted out. So what made me stay? Maybe the fact that these rough spots weren't big deal breakers, so I figured that it was worth putting more effort into the relationship rather than giving up on something that was actually pretty good. Or maybe I'm afraid to be the first to say things aren't working, though I didn't feel like there was much evidence to show that things weren't going well.


I don't know. I really don't. What I do know is that relationships aren't always on cloud 9, they won't always be easy, and they most certainly are not perfect. Yet we all still want them. We all want someone to love and have them love us back.